Putting things off is the biggest waste of life: it snatches away each day as it comes and denies us the present by promising the future. What are you looking at? To what goal are you straining? The whole future lies in uncertainty: live immediately. Lucius Annaeus Seneca 4Bc to 65 AD. On January 1st, we cross over the burni...
Life meanders like a path through the woods. We have seasons when we flourish and seasons when the leaves fall from us, revealing our bare bones. Given time, they grow again. George Eliot. The days before the shortest day of the year are shaped by the honest starkness of winter. Bare branches etched against grey skies. A russet fla...
It was not by a serpent, but by paper and ink that evil came into the world. Hilary Mantel. November is the season of falling leaves. Here in the north, a dying sun lies lethargically on the horizon. Trump’s in charge now, a landslide win has loosened a dark sludge of discontent that has been bubbling since Pluto entered Capricor...
Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it. Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy—the experiences that make us the most vulnerable. Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light ~ Brené Brown
I bring my lifelong interest in relationships and my own experience as wife, lover, friend, daughter and mother into my vocation. I believe that it is in our relationships with friends, family members, work colleagues and of course the ones we all invest most highly in, our intimate relationships, that we hear the song of our soul.
Our relationships are mirrors for our own growing up and the discovery of the essence of who we truly are. Over the years, I’ve explored and personally experienced many different relationship theories.
For me the very best in current thinking and authenticity is found in Imago Relationship Work and the new paradigms of sexuality and heart-to-heart connection presented in the work of Esther Perel and Hedy and Yumi Schleifer. I combine astrology and new paradigms of psychological theory, in my work as a UK astrologer and relationship mentor.
Evolutionary astrology is my passion: how we evolve in our relationship space and how we adapt and grow in the face of challenging situations.
Experiencing empathy, the freedom to explore, trust, and insight can reset your default reactions to a more curious, tolerant, and confident stance. Because our brains are plastic, consistently positive experiences do stimulate existing neurons to adapt and connect in different pathways. Nurturing relationships help us grow psychologically and neurally in ways that are not possible in non-nurturing relationships. As adults, our most important opportunity for a nurturing relationship comes through committed partnership. It’s a breakthrough to realize that the purpose of committed relationship is not to be happy, but to heal. And then you will be happy! ~ Harville Hendricks
Shame, blame, disrespect, betrayal, and the withholding of affection damage the roots from which love grows. Love can only survive these injuries if they are acknowledged, healed and rare. ― Brené Brown
Why do I shut down when we feel criticised? Why have I lost my confidence in my own intuition? What happened to my inner light? Neurobiology helps make sense of this. TrueHeartWork will help you to restore the balance in your own life and rebalance the power within your relationships.
In the words of Wordsworth, we come into the world ``trailing clouds of glory``, but the fire is soon extinguished, and we lose sight of the fact that we are whole, spiritual beings. We live impoverished, repetitious, unrewarding lives and blame our partners for our unhappiness. ― Harville Hendricks
We are never alone. Connect through TrueHeartWork with partners, children or work colleagues. Move past unspoken assumptions, understand their world. Be seen for who you are.
Romantic Love delivers us into the passionate arms of someone who will ultimately trigger the same frustrations we had with our parents, but for the best possible reason! Doing so brings our childhood wounds to the surface so they can be healed ― Harville Hendricks
Is your relationship in crisis, needing energy, inspiration and focus? TrueHeartWork offers you hope and the Imago tools and techniques to mend the rupture.
Our blessing for all of us is to be able to experience the fullness and the generosity of life, and grow our capacity to hold the “glad” and the “sad” together ― Hedy and Yumi Schleifer
Your birth chart contains a blueprint of all your potential. It’s a map at threshold times in your life journey and offers a holistic approach to understanding the necessary challenges we all must face in our human experience.
We live in a relational world and are always in relationship with one another, whether married or divorced, with siblings, friends, children or work colleagues.
I invite you to begin the work of opening your heart to true healing as you re-claim your authenticity and learn how to love yourself tenderly and consistently. I offer guidance on your life journey, based on the ancient art of astrology and the modern map offered by current psychological thinking.
But more importantly, your personal experience of who you are is heard and validated. It is my pleasure and honour to be of service to you in your journey to wholeness.
Love is a vessel that contains both security and adventure, and commitment offers one of the great luxuries of life: time. Marriage is not the end of romance, it is the beginning ~ Esther Perel
